Yesterday I posted on some differences between a Restorative Justice Circle – and a Conference. I made a little graphic, I had some trouble posting it. You can link here to view it. http://www.circle-space.org/wp-content/uploads/2009/05/circle-elements-jpg.pdf
The blog post has been on my mind. For one I don’t want to be a critical person. Yet, I know I am biased by what I have done and seen. Being non-judgemental is hard work. I know why some people run a Circle from a place of above rather than with – it’s because we just aren’t used to doing things with people. So I wanted to be more with people myself. I have a blog in mind about the importance of the first few stages. I’ll make a seperate entry on that. I have to share what happened, which was perhaps a bigger lesson overall.
I open up my blog to type a post. I also open another window and use that to cut and paste my links. I knew I wanted to link today’s post to yesterdays. Some goofy thing happened, and I hit enter before Circlespace was in the search window. I found myself at another blog on Circles. http://schoolcircles.blogspot.com/ So check this out for some really good stuff. Really good stuff and some stuff, I don’t agree with.
So in my attempt to do a post and show I am not critical, I run across something that I feel the need to point out what I see as weaknesses. Here I am using judgemental terms, weakness. I should say “differences”. The methods can be different.
You see, I believe in congruency. I think as human beings we have an obligation to be in ‘right relationship’ with ourselves. This means if you speak to, believe in certain values – you also live to those. I mention being congruent, in a post on Circle presence. So if I believe and speak to respect, inclusion, diversity – – then I have a lesson in front of me. Do I continue to point out what I don’t like in other Circle methods – or do I speak my voice. I pick up the talking piece and share. Respectfully.
I am also reminded that I can grow. Hearing other perspectives can also add to mine. I used to feel going to the ‘left’ was the only way. That changed when a Native American friend, shared his perspective. I changed. I am now open to the talking piece going either way. I do not do a popcorn style, where you request to hold it. I believe in the natural flow, and once the talking piece starts it goes all the way around.
From the blog I found this morning – I am going to check out the two books mentioned. Really the post has great stuff.
Whew – I feel better now, I was carrying around a feeling that I was judgemental, and now I can let that go!