We all just want to make our parents proud and not embarrass our kids. I believe that is at the heart of all our relationships. Restorative Justice is about relationships, and I’ve posted a few times here about the comparisons of social media, to restorative justice, and the impact on these relationships. Today I have 16 posts under Social Media. Another benefit today, in a full-circle experience way!
I got to be interviewed today, by a social media connection. Melinda Blau, author of Consequential Strangers contacted me after I did a post on her book. I really embraced the new concept, and found powerful examples after asking about CS’s in a Circle. When she let me know via Twitter, she mentioned me in her blog, the Twitter link took me there. (I left to go grab a link) and Oh geez in my true ADD form, I just found out she blogs for Psychology Today! Now I feel even better about our conversation.
So the insight, growth and proud Mom moment!
Melinda and I connected right away! We were chatting away so friendly, her voice reminded me of family back in Michigan, although she’s from Maine. She complimented my writing, and confirmed she doesn’t offer that type of comment. She was talking about my blog writing, which for me to be talking to someone about was really cool. I’ve been adding ‘blogger’ onto my introductions but still feeling like it wasn’t quite “legit”. Telling my blogging story and use of social media today, allowed me to hear out loud how this was all working for me. I must say, “pretty cool”.
I clarified how “putting myself out there” really puts who I am ahead of meeting me in person. I also shared how high school friends on Facebook, have shared thoughts on my work now. I network about Restorative Justice on Facebook, like mad. Melinda really drew things out as we discussed this. Who would have thought I would be talking about having a Mom who died of cancer or being adopted, today in an interview on social media! Those two things are in my top few wounds. I’ve said before, healing happens closest to the wound. And making the link from who I was then, and who I am now, felt healthy. To have what I put out there be reinforced, lends to me being more genuine, and Melinda and I talked about the importance to that. I mentioned my value of congruence, which is when my personal and professional values stay aligned. She agreed.
In talking about my blog, facebook, and twitter, I shared that my daughter was the only kid in her class who got to raise her hand when the teacher asked if parents were on Twitter. A friend of Kylie’s said “your Mom would be”. It turns out Kylie was in the office, doing some work for me for gas money. I ended up putting her on the phone with Melinda.
The computer guy/friend was here, a friends daughter who helps me out in the office was here. We were all impressed with my kid. She shared that as odd as it is, her only privacy from me is her Facebook. Long story, she won’t friend me, I “stalk” her. She said out loud “my Mom and I are really close”. I didn’t know or think she would say that. I know I’m her Mom, but I must say it was pretty cool.
So the article is for the Psychotherapy Networker, and as I reflected on it later, I remembered something. When I was a new in-home family therapist I used to LOVE that magazine! Kylie was 3 when I had that job, and today at 18 she was interviewed for an article that is being written for it. Wow, that’s full Circle!