Fear, nervous energy, anxiety all acceptable before Circle-keeping.
I have a reverance for the Circle process. Specifically, the Restorative Justice Circle process as I learned it, from Kay Pranis, Linda Wolf, Jamie Williams, Oscar Reed, and many, many, many people who have joined me in Circles over the past 6 years. By reverance, I mean a deep respect and knowledge that the concept of Circle (intentionally capatilized) is in our DNA. To provide equal respect, for me, is a way to honor the divine in all of us. So if you are about to embark on your journey as a Circle-keeper, if you are new to using this technology, then fear, nervous energy and anxiety might all be part of it, and I find that a good thing.
In Kay’s book Peacemaking Circles, she shares the importance of preparing by centering. I used this guidance, I was anxious when I started, I would have notes about the questions I prepared, words listed as tips for me to say about opening a Circle. I feel now, that a focused inhale can prepare me. Well, I also exhale! I was talking to someone today, it was an interview that was a good conversation. I kept wanting to offer, what I wish I might have heard before keeping my first Circle. I offered support for those feelings of anxiety or fear. Maybe just nervous energy. I think these things are good, when we care about doing well we can get nervous not wanting to do harm or to complicate matters.
Circlekeeping shouldn’t feel like the same old, same old kind of faciliatation. Circlekeeping is keeping the form and funtion of Circle above individual agenda’s – keeper or attendee. The form and function of Circle is to be grounded in Restorative Justice and specifically the value of respect. I think it starts with the respect to the process of Circle.
I wish you well as you try this. I encourage training, training and reading. Then find a mentor to discuss your plans with. Engage yourself in learning about, doing and developing your Circlekeeping skills.