An artist in the show, invited me to the reception. Twice, so I knew it was important, and relationships are built by going out of our way. Since I like art, it wasn’t THAT out of the way, so I attended. Since I know the artist in a totally different context, I didn’t really connect “drawing from life” or the postcard, to what I was going to see.
The gallery was set up with the center space showing the chair the model might sit in. It became clear from the drawings, the models were nude. Wow. I took in the art, appreciated reading the artist statements. I had just been to a deep meeting and discussion with someone preparing to meet with a surviving family member, in a multiple death traffic fatality incident. The nakedness of the art, the beauty, reminded me of how we have to get emotionally bare when it comes to Restorative Justice dialogue. As a facilitator when emotions are high, and grief over the death of a loved is present, you also become bare. Your own heart is present and you (facilitator) are in it alongside those requesting and agreeing to dialogue.
Later I posted on Facebook, the echoes of this earlier conversation. It really stayed with me, mostly the bravery of the young person, dealing with very adult issues. The pre-session preparation was more intense, as we are getting closer to the actual face to face meeting. The compliment shared was really great to hear as well. The voiced confidence in SCVRJP and me, confirmed and supported the energy I was feeling about readiness for the dialogue to happen.
This morning a comment on the Facebook post, struck a strong note with me. Cameron Communicationz, “everything worth doing is an art”. YES! I always taught my daughter to know that art was never finished, if you “messed up” just keep coloring or drawing to work that in. She might not remember that. I was trying to counter my perfectionism rubbing off on her, but that’s another blog post. In facilitating a severe crime case, such tender care is needed in exploring the needs of the victims. Preparing parties to sit face to face after damage and harm, especially when a loved one has died, requires zero attention to your own perfectionism. All ego of the facilitator needs to be removed, and working towards emotional safety and preparation is the art.
Restorative Justice as art. That means co-creating with those around you. That fits well, I teach that a Circle keepers job is to engage everyone as keepers in the Circle. As I viewed the art in the gallery, there was no way the drawings could have emerged without the live figure (nude model). Imagine the vulnerability to disrobe and be drawn . . . to me that feels incredibly powerful, a risk taken and completed. As I looked at the art gallery drawings, I could see myself in some of the drawings. We connect to art, and I believe we connect to each other in Restorative Justice. Reflections of ourselves in others.
The link between art and Restorative Justice got me thinking about the similarities. Using different methods, improving over time, finding yourself in the art you create. Learning what others interpret or see in your creations.
I got emotionally overwhelmed at the art gallery. I felt like crying. I was moved by the courage I felt in the drawings and the honesty expressed. I enjoyed visiting with the person that invited me. It was a real lesson, on people being more that you might know. The restorative justice meeting, the gallery reception, the Facebook comment. Three randomly disconnected things, all now connected in this blog post. And isn’t that what life and Restorative Justice is all about . . . connections.