At St. Croix Valley Restorative Justice Program (SCVRJP), we teach our volunteers, our participants, and our speakers/storytellers as much as we can about core Restorative Justice philosophy and approaches.
We use the Little Books of Restorative Justice and Circle (Zehr & Pranis) found at Goodbooks. We have powerpoints we ask to be reviewed and a few core handouts. If your Restorative Justice program is interested, I can share.
One briefly stated concept is Judge None. This means withhold assumptions, judgements, decisions what you would or would not do. Judgement leads to blame, and blame is removes you and places focus on the other. Now what if you are the victim? We listen deeply and intently to victims. We honor the feelings, emotion and experiences and we still ask ‘judge none’. We don’t know the motivation, intention of another. We can hold our own thoughts, emotion and experience from their actions. Judge none, really separates the doer from the deed.
It is not easy when you hear of someone’s experience. Can you imagine dealing with the death of your child and in the name of religion, a people mail the newspaper articles, obituary and conversion material to extended family out-of-state. Ouch. Well intended from their point of view, painful to the family.
To blame, minimize, avoid full responsibility is almost the natural reaction to making a mistake. If you easily go to “oh, I did it, I feel bad, I shouldn’t have” your accountability journey looks like a vacation rather than a journey to understanding, a little suffering creates some deep lessons. Thank goodness for juvenile justice workers and social workers that walk beside youth helping them along.
Judge None, allows us to look at our 3 (Zehr) Relationship, responsibility and respect. Asking people to have their relationship to the incident, and not judge the other persons relationship to the incident is a matter of judge none.
I just worked with someone who was taking full responsibility for their part. I asked about that tag line at the end. I got the full story of all the things someone else had done to contribute to the incident this person was charged, convicted and sentenced for. In more words and time than permit here, we unpacked those things. We looked at relationships to the incident. We went to the first part of Restorative Justice ‘acknowledging you caused harm”. Our responsibility is fully owned, when we focus on our selves. In Circle we ask “speak to the Center”. That models that our responsibilities are our decisions, our actions, our thoughts.
When we are busy doing our best to be our best, we haven’t got time energy or resources for more . Judge none is a reminder to our own restorative justice living (click to tweet)