More on the meme, Restorative Justice and social media.

MemeMemes are contagious patterns of cultural information that are passed from mind to mind and that directly shape and generate key actions and mindsets of a social group. Memes include popular tunes, catch-phrases, clothing fashions, architectural styles, ways of doing things, and so on.

More on  meme, here.  I find social media fascinating, I loved the opportunity to start blogging as a way to distinguish myself in the field.  The opportunity and benefit of being involved in social media have help Restorative Justice in general, our non-profit and me professionally and personally.

As soon as I saw some of these different meme’s going around, I wanted to make one for Restorative Justice.  If a picture is worth a thousand words, than six photos is 6,000 words at once.  Like Restorative Justice, the UthinkIdo Meme, views things from different angles.

Another aspect I like of the “meme” and “restorative justice” is that I had to go figure out the word, MEME.  I saw it in a NPR link I my Facebook wall, thank goodness for Wiki and Google, I got a better grasp of what a MEME is.  I thought it really cool the word was is a book from 1976.  Like the term Restorative Justice, it has taken some time to become understood or relevant in culture.

I believe Restorative Justice is on the rise, see a blog post on megatrend thoughts. (I can’t believe I titled a post IDK, and I wonder why I’m not taken more seriously!)  It’s important to me to represent my self professionally, and I really want to be a leader in the field, by doing the best I can as a facilitator, advocate, practitioner, director, blogger.  To keep ahead of my work, I enrolled in a course.

I am taking a course through Eastern Mennonite University, with Howard Zehr.  At first I was resistant to the notion of tensions, and critical issues in Restorative Justice.  I have come to see that things can change over time, and the original intention is sometimes not what evolves.  I have come to admire this viewpoint, and this dedication to continue to keep a grasp on the key principles, values, process that make Restorative Justice.

I see how it get diluted.  It raises my blood pressure every time I see the term “Restorative Justice” near terms like Teen Court.  I’m on the fence about people who change their language to “restorative principles” when they are doing the same old same old, and add that in.  At least they have stopped calling the same old, same old, RJ.

The Restorative Justice Meme, was a chance to look at the different view points through the lens of humor.  By trying to over exaggerate – which is a form of humor.  To amplify what is true, and nobody really says you can be funny.  I hope by creating the RJ Meme, it actually creates a little more discussion and understanding of RJ.  It was difficult to pick the different angles, the different photos.  If you have further thoughts I’d like to hear them!

Thanks for reading!  I appreciate the opportunity to have a community right here on this blog!

 

-Kris

Round-up of Restorative Justice, Restorative Practices & Restorative Measures blogs. -updated!

It seems to be a season of new blogs, I keep an eye on the social media scene, and appreciate the variety or resources available for our consumption, and engagement.   You can’t always depend on a Google search, some sites don’t have enough traffic (yet) to make the rankings.  This post is going to offer a summary for readers.

Blogging is an opportunity for authors to instantly be “published” on the internet.  Blogs offer both authors and readers different benefits.  Blogs seems to range from the sale of goods to the expression of the authors.  Lots and lots of organizations are adding a “blog” to websites.  Blogs offer the chance to sign-up, follow or pick up an RSS feed.  This means that as soon as a post is published, you get an email, or get the “feed” (what is published).  I thought offering a summary of choices and resources would be helpful.

This post is my perspective on your blog resources for learning more about Restorative Justice and Restorative interventions.  If I missed anyone please let me know!

Let’s start where you are now, Circlespace.  This blog is just starting year 3, the site has over 500 posts, and is updated anywhere from a few times to 15 a month.  As author, I write about examples, advice, support and provide insights into being a practitioner and non-profit director.

A great blog, I have mentioned here before is RJOB, from Prison Fellowship International.  From the website, the blog is described as:

The purpose of RJOB is to provide timely information about restorative justice news and developments, together with commentary on the use and expansion of restorative justice.

The name of the blog is RJOB, the acronym for Restorative Justice Online Blog. It is pronounced “Our Job” to remind us that it is up to us to develop, expand, evaluate and strengthen restorative justice theory and practice.

I appreciate that you can sign up for a monthly summary.  This blog will pick up and post some blogs from other bloggers, so it’s a good site to watch if you have to pick just one to follow.  The RJOB, blog, recently announced the announcement about the International Institute for Restorative Practices blog.

Newest to the blogging scene, is the IIRP blog, the site offers this about their blog: Pull up a chair and we’ll make some room for you in the circle. Here you’ll find news, commentary and discussion related to IIRP and the field of restorative practices as it is being applied in schools, the workplace, criminal justice, social work, colleges and communities.  

Our “Grandfather”, Howard Zehr blogs at Restorative Justice Blog.  This blog has been on the internet since 2009, and Howard seems to be updating about once a month, he provides deep and thoughtful blog posts, often with a resource linked.  There is always good feedback and conversation following Howard’s posts.

I just found, ReSolutionaries, the most recent post, was a great perspective on practitioners in Circle.  Right now the site has 8 posts, and I appreciate the approach they are sharing, being supportive of practitioners and providing resources.

Melanie Snyder is blogging about a variety of topics and is including more Restorative Justice.  She has a full-site of resources.

Dr Tom Cavanaugh blogs about Schools and Restorative Justice, he doesn’t post often, and provides resources.

Since June 2011, the Colorado practitioners are providing lots of resources here.

Ken is blogging for mediators and peace-makers, at Fairness Works.

Since 2008, Lorenn Walker has been providing, Restorative Justice and other public health approaches for healing.

You can Google Search and find some blogs that are no longer kept up, they have good information, however if you are looking to keep a consistent diet of readings, the sites above are my collected resources.

If you are a blogger on Restorative topics, please remind me if I missed you!  I try to share and encourage that we share our sites for the greater good of the movement, “collaboration over competition”.  If you have helpful feedback about the above sites, I would be happy to share that as well.

blog update, posted here since comments must be clicked on to be viewed:

My new connection, and blogger since June 2011, Dr. Evelyn Zellerer  blogs here, she is in Canada and has a full site Peace of the Circle Transforming Conflict-Building Relationships.  Thanks for the contribution!

Me? Am I at home in the emotional world? Values are feelings.

It’s hard to express yourself when you don’t know who you are.

My life is in great transition.  I am living alone for the first time in 18 1/2 years.  I am a single, work-a-holic.  I just glanced at a Wedding invitation and that makes me feel better about connections.

The last few months of my life have not included much blogging.  The weakest blog posts in nearly two years of blogging.  I would log on, stare at the screen of my downhill statistics.  If you don’t blog, people have nothing new to come see.  I thought the declining statistics would push my ‘competitive side’, no luck.

See I am trying to do sooo many things different.  I should be exercising, eating better, doing MORE at work.  Having a healthy committed relationship, keeping the house spotless (I live alone after all).  I am having more and more SHOULD’s and less and less experiences and commitments to the core values I selected for myself to live by – Generosity, Spirituality and Connection.

I realize I haven’t let myself have a little ‘grief’ and ‘grief’ is a feeling.  I’ve been knotted up inside.  Sitting in a chair in my daughter’s room, remembering how I would rock her little baby bundly person and time would fly.  As I would start to feel something heavy, I would remember some of the SCVRJP volunteers who lost children.  I would stuff my grief, dismissing it because it was not as bad as her’s.

Last night I was up unable to sleep for the second night in a row.  Feeling as tense as ever.  A set point is back to my days as an in-home family therapist.  The tension inside my body is so tight there is nowhere to go.  I know when I realize that I feel the way I did back then, I am stressed to the max.

When “stressed to the max” we don’t perform well.  At least I don’t.  I ended up texting a friend, got a call back and I was on the phone crying.  When asked about crying, I said it was my performance review.  I’ve been so caught up in who I “am”, worried about this whole new life as a single woman living alone, that I forgot the “truth”.  The truth is that I do a really good job for SCVRJP.  The truth is I am not just an executive director.

Once again the philosophy I love, restorative justice, to the rescue.  I began to think in terms of harms, needs, obligations and engagements.  I got side tracked and was mad about programs call themselves restorative justice, but don’t use inclusive, respectful models.  (link – of a good effort, but not quite RJ).

This experience is helping me as a practitioner of CHANGE.  Healing is a desired benefit of Restorative Justice, I also believe working to promote empathy, increase self-worth and restore connections are other desired outcomes.  So as I experience a time of needing to use my inner resources for outer circumstances, I see how to make connections that might help others.

Restorative Justice is based on values.  Trust, honesty, love, respect, common values I’ve seen presented in Circle sessions.  What are these really?  I think they come down to feelings.  You sure know when someone doesn’t have them, for how you feel.  I love values, I love the concept, I love using them to get to know people.  I love focusing restorative justice around them, by using Circle process as the main administration of the Restorative Justice philosophy.

And blog, I’m back.  Like a bear I needed a little bit of hibernation to get back in the game.

Thanks readers, I love you!

Restorative Justice Volunteers, you have my deepest heartfelt THANKS!!!

A volunteer shared something recently.  Its from the cover of a volunteer orientation booklet.  A quote by Margaret Mead:

“We live in a society that always has depended on volunteers of different kinds – – some who can give money, others who give time, and a great many who freely give of their special skills, full time or part time.  If you look closely, you will see that almost anything that really matters to us, anything that embodies our deepest committment to the way human life should be lived and cared for, depends on some form– more often, many forms–of volunteerism.”

One of our volunteers deflected some praise to me, saying “she really helped me”.  He had just finished speaking to 1,200 students at a mock crash.  He stood up owned what he had done.  He was speaking with the officer who was on the scene the day of the fatal crash.  The officer removed his sunglasses to offer thanks and feedback to the young man.  I overheard him say something about how good it was to see the speaker doing good.  That is when the praise got deflected to me.  Thats how humble our volunteer is.  SCVRJP couldn’t reach out to people if we didn’t have story tellers to share the worse thing that ever happened.

Our board, the governance of this non-profit is also done by volunteers.  Volunteers help explain community perspective to people who have caused harm.  It means something different coming from a volunteer.  As much as I love my job, and restorative justice, people know that I am paid to be here.  Paid positions don’t represent community like volunteers do.

A client was in Circle waiting for things to start.  I was sitting in my seat, directing people that we needed to sit with volunteers not right next to each other.  In a completely confused and slightly cynical voice, the client asked, “why would ANYONE volunteer to be here?”  I smiled, when I really wanted to chuckle.  Sure enough as she left that night, SHE was thinking about volunteering.

My grammer is better because someone volunteered some writing tips!  Thanks Melinda!  Volunteers are all around me, they help in every aspect of my life and work.  I had coffee with someone from another agency today, she was volunteering time with me as we brainstormed about another collaborative team we serve on.  You simply can not exist without giving your time and volunteering for someone else.  You may as well make in meaningful!

I hope you find the Mead quote as powerful as I have.  If you are in my area and you want to volunteer, you know where I work!

Self-Esteem 101. Lesson 1. “Accept a compliment”. Learning never ends.

I’ve given the post title in 4 sentances, none over three words.  I am sure this is not the recommended format for blog titles.  Blogging gives me a chance to break a few rules, and well . . . I will always be a wildflower.  Just purchased a great piece of folk art with that phrase stitched in felt.

The first sentance:  Self-esteem 101.  Like a first college class in life.  If you miss 101, you seldom understand 110, or 305.  This is where is starts.  How can you get anywhere in life without it?  Eventually you learn this is not anyone elses responsibility to regard you as esteemed.  Its your job to carry yourself in a many of respect and responsibility for yourself and others.  If someone else is going to treat you poorly, then leave, get out of their path (until they discover there own esteem enough to treat others better).

Lesson 1.  Accepting a compliment is at the beginning.  The very, very beginning.  Even a simple compliment, “I like your sweater”, gets brushed off  with “this old thing”, geez you aren’t projecting positive, your probably a little annoying.  I got into my “who am I” at 30 stage, my self-help reading from growing up female in a male-dominated world.  Lesson 1, accept a compliment.

What does that mean to accept a compliment?  Is saying “thank you” enough.  Do you have a conversation about it?  Do you add in, “glad you noticed, I try really hard”.  To accept it, would be to acknowledge it, not reject it off, hit is away like a fly, or pass it off like a hot potato. 

So briefly, to the point, the title here, four strong sentance.  Things I know.  I really know.  Yet, this conversation, just yesterday, it shows sometimes we will even go to great lengths to not accept, but almost reject a compliment:

Colleague/friend:  “You write well.”

Me:  “I can’t sing.”

I launch into a messy explanation about how I’m tone deaf.  In college I sat out karoke, until I figured out to shut off the mike, and lip sinc. (had to get in on the fun of it).  Can-NOT carry a tune or sing, really wish I could sing.  Colleague, while paging through my first published article  in the American Humane Association Abstract.  Still confused, he says, “this is good work and I can’t sing either.”  He says it in a way I realize I sound really stupid.

Now I try to explain that I was complimented by another writer, and the next day, was thinking how I couldn’t sing and realized maybe I could write.  What if I could write . . . as good as my singing is bad!?  Like somehow what I didn’t get in one department would be compensated in another.  My singing is SO bad, a friend made fun of me after church!  She nudged her Dad, “listen to Kris, she’s so off key”.  Twenty years of bad singing, and just starting to write, that would mean that my writing could be really, really good.  How do I get to be a good writer . . .

He stopped me, and said “Just accept the compliment”.  I said “thanks”. 

As good friends do, they take your ‘crazy’ and make it ‘normal’.  In the middle of a conversation with someone else, as I was getting some positive feedback.  He jumped in “yeah, but she can’t sing.”

Another social networking connection provides insight, growth and a proud Mom moment.

We all just want to make our parents proud and not embarrass our kids.  I believe that is at the heart of all our relationships.  Restorative Justice is about relationships, and I’ve posted a few times here about the comparisons of social media, to restorative justice, and the impact on these relationships.  Today I have 16 posts under Social Media.   Another benefit today, in a full-circle experience way!

I got to be interviewed today, by a social media connection.  Melinda  Blau, author of Consequential Strangers contacted me after I did a post on her book.  I really embraced the new concept, and found powerful examples after asking about CS’s in a Circle.  When she let me know via Twitter, she mentioned me in her blog, the Twitter link took me there.   (I left to go grab a link) and Oh geez in my true ADD form, I just found out she blogs for Psychology Today!  Now I feel even better about our conversation.

So the insight, growth and proud Mom moment! 

Melinda and I connected right away!  We were chatting away so friendly, her voice reminded me of family back in Michigan, although she’s from Maine.  She complimented my writing, and confirmed she doesn’t offer that type of comment.  She was talking about my blog writing, which for me to be talking to someone about was really cool.  I’ve been adding ‘blogger’ onto my introductions but still feeling like it wasn’t quite “legit”.  Telling my blogging story and use of social media today, allowed me to hear out loud how this was all working for me.  I must say, “pretty cool”. 

I clarified how “putting myself out there” really puts who I am ahead of meeting me in person.  I also shared how high school friends on Facebook, have shared thoughts on my work now.  I network about Restorative Justice on Facebook, like mad.  Melinda really drew things out as we discussed this.  Who would have thought I would be talking about having a Mom who died of cancer or being adopted, today in an interview on social media!  Those two things are in my top few wounds.  I’ve said before, healing happens closest to the wound.  And making the link from who I was then, and who I am now, felt healthy.  To have what I put out there be reinforced, lends to me being more genuine, and Melinda and I talked about the importance to that.  I mentioned my value of congruence, which is when my personal and professional values stay aligned.  She agreed.

In talking about my blog, facebook, and twitter, I shared that my daughter was the only kid in her class who got to raise her hand when the teacher asked if parents were on Twitter.  A friend of Kylie’s said “your Mom would be”.  It turns out Kylie was in the office, doing some work for me for gas money.  I ended up putting her on the phone with Melinda.

The computer guy/friend was here, a friends daughter who helps me out in the office was here.  We were all impressed with my kid.  She shared that as odd as it is, her only privacy from me is her Facebook.  Long story, she won’t friend me, I “stalk” her.  She said out loud “my Mom and I are really close”.  I didn’t know or think she would say that.  I know I’m her Mom, but I must say it was pretty cool.

So the article is for the Psychotherapy Networker, and as I reflected on it later, I remembered something.  When I was a new in-home family therapist I used to LOVE that magazine!  Kylie was 3 when I had that job, and today at 18 she was interviewed for an article that is being written for it.  Wow, that’s full Circle!

Are self-help books really all that helpful? A personal strength list reveals a “maybe”

I was quickly browsing one of my many dating self-help books.  Just looking for validation that I am READY for a relationship.  Something that says the problem isn’t me.

I’m not going to go down the road of why my thinking “alone” is some sort of problem, failure or deficiet – created by society, who in turn has a high divorce rate.  No cynical-Sally is not the author of this post.  Kris Miner, the hero of her own story is the author.  (Don’t forget: You are the hero of your story!)

The book gives a “ready” check-list that includes the ability to instantly make a list of your 25 personal strengths.  Oh, easy, I can do that. 

I believe Self-awareness is one of, if not, the only way to make change.  Personal change.  My favorite blogger, Penelope Trunk, calls it self-knowledge.  You have to know how your behavior is impacting others, and in turn impacting your life.  I take time to try and be aware of who I am, and that is what let me know I could make a list of 25 strengths.

I also believe in Strenghts.  Let me HIGHLY recommend and plug Strenghts Finder 2.0.  Spend the $20 to do the assessment it’s WELL worth the time.  This helped me understand that being ‘competitive’ isn’t bad, it just need harnessed.  You really get to see your characteristics as strengths.  The whole point is that its easy to take what you are good at and make it great, rather than take a weakness and try to make it good.

So a list of 25 strengths was going to be easy for me.  I am hyper, jump right in to the task at hand.  I pull out a notebook and start rattling off strengths.  I get to number 11 and wrote down .  .  . clean.  Clean as in freshly showered.  Clean as in not like PigPen. 

from http://julianngrant.com/

Wow, what a personal strength.

I am among the people that shower. 

I am a person whose clothes are washed.

Hmmmm, I thought.  Did I mean that I was free of a sexually transmitted disease?  No, I did not mean that, but it’s true!

Now I started to think the whole damn idea of a list 25 personal strengths was stupid.  When I get mad and judgemental its an indication for me to take a closer look.  I took a pause.

Maybe I needed to slow down a little.  Maybe rattling off the list wasn’t the way to do this.  I didn’t put down “clean” for number 11, I jotted down, “quick thinker”.  I only have 22 items on my list.

I guess I need two more before I’m ready for a relationship. 

Awwww, screw the list.

why you are seeing so many posts lately – 30 day challenge.

I am back posting, entering posts and then dating them for an earlier time.  I am doing this as part of a blogging challenge.  I need to post 30 times in 30 days.

I picked this up from a blog by Connie Green, she’s also on Twitter @conniegreen.  I appreciate her marketing and social media resources.

The last few months, I was starting to feel slightly disconnected from my blog, and I started to examine why.  I was experiencing life deeply, see this post, I was slightly depressed, by the season changing/lack of sunshine and a break-up (he’s requested me not to blog on him anymore, so no details are available).  Careful examination and a reconnection to my original blogging intentions, to bring restorative justice to others, I decided I needed to focus on brining the blog to the next level, or at very least restore my connection to this hobby of blogging.

What would that mean, to restore the connection?  Do I focus on subscriptions, daily hits or getting my blog mentioned in other blogs.  I decided to simply start by refocusing on my daily blogging.  I found this challenge and decided it hit my need for competition.

Blogging begets blogging.  Now that I am more connected to my blog, I see potential blog posts everywhere!  Its a renewed connection of experiencing my life with “bloggers glasses”.  How do I turn a life lesson or teaching on restorative justice into a 500 word blog post.  You do it by doing it.

I’m excited to start in a blogging on each of the Restorative Justice Principles listed here.  I’ve got a new book, with 40 some tabs, all inspiration for blog posts.  I’ve got 13 drafts ready to be finalized before posting.

I also know you’ll see some personal posts.  I am exploring dating, and with that exploring who I am.  I will also be spending some time alone over Christmas.  This gives me time for personal reflection and those lessons are often given voice in this blog.

Thanks to Connie for hosting the challenge, I will be excited to see what January brings, as I focus on 30 posts in 30 days!

Speaking about Restorative Justice, what one thing, is most important.

I’m struggling with what to say at tonights first fundraiser.  I know that I will have a demonstration towards the end.  I plan to make the ‘mic’ the talking piece, and have a few testimonials from the crowd.  I have a few people aware that the spontaneous opportunity will be presented.  I do believe I can firmly close my section on the program, with a convincing statement:  “And THAT is why_____”  I don’t know what to put in the blank.

I might talk about miracles I see, in RJ and weave in a story or two.  I thought about a story of our organization.  I am trying to find the ONE thing, I want people to know when I am done.  I came her to my blog to figure this out.  I try to write 500 word posts, to keep them long enough for some content, but short enough to digest quickly.  Here’s a try at my speech:

Picture this.  Eight people in a room at the public library.  Brainstorming and discussing where to try with restorative justice.  There was no other agency to follow, there were no ‘restorative justice, experts’ in the room.  As a matter of fact, some of the people actually spent time at their day jobs directly opposing others.  Much of the motivation came from a sense that what was happening was not working.  Rather than being defeated, the group met, and met, and met.  Using the very process that is most noted today at SCVRJP, a Talking Circle, the group developed a mission.  The mission, the goal of the organization was to build a culture of peace and belonging utilizing restorative justice principles and practices.  (nah, I don’t like this one).

(Taking a long pause, using meaningful silence) I will look around the room (giving me a chance to breathe and calm myself down – more than any speech I’ve done, this one has me really nervous).   I just have to soak this all in.  120 people are here, we are here to support and celebrate SCVRJP. You (silent paused) have brought me great joy.  You see I get my joy, in helping others, and restorative justice brings joy to anyone around it.  Let me explain how I experience, and define ‘joy’.  A calm sense of peace and belonging, with a mixture of hope and love.  That is joy.  Its joy, when people own their lives and their experiences, and share themselves with others.  Other people soak that in and they become joyful.

Did you ever build a human pyramid?  You know, the strongest on the bottom, on their hands and knees.  We join in carefully getting one knee and hand on two other people, using backs and shoulders for support.  Adding people until the thing collapses or you have a few moments of success.  I just need a few volunteers . . . just kidding.  The point I want to make about ‘human pyramids’ is that we are contantly in one.  You have to support other people, you have to trust others – and life is a constant stream to building and celebrating.

I would like to introduce you to people at SCVRJP, that are part of the pyryamid, the board members,  could you please stand up.  (Introduce everyone.)  There are also some other special guests, here, former board members – could you stand up.  (Introduce them).  Thank you board members, now I would like to have our volunteers stand.  This group of people, they form human pyramids all the time, and they work with others to help them feel part of the great human pyramid of life.  They deliver the goods on peace and belonging.  Thank you volunteers!

They say if you have a product, service, company or cause that is improving the life of someone, then you have a story to tell.  I have SO many stories, so many stories of faith, hope and love, facilited by Restorative Justice.  Tonights theme, restoring the fabric of our community, this happens everyday in Restorative Justice.  The beauty of it lies in the fact that EACH and EVERY person is part of the fabric of community.  And restorative justice reminds us to keep our part of the fabric strong.  And when one string or weave of it gets broken, those around become strong in the weakest spots.  If you’ve ever made the effort to improve, your life or someone elses, you have a story to tell.  We use those stories in our work, we restore the fabric of commuity by storytelling.

So I’d like to open this up a little bit, and make this microphone into a talking piece, and I’d like to invite anyone that has something to add, or a brief story about SCVRJP – restoring the fabric of community, to join me for a few moments of storytelling.

So I am inviting anyone that has something to add to join me.   (open mic stories).

Closing:  And THAT is the JOY of Restorative Justice.  Thank you for attending our fundraiser!

 

(what do you think?)

Overcoming the feedback that I couldn’t write a story.

One of my college dreams was to be a TV news reporter.  It was maybe my 2nd or 3rd major in college, and I felt “at home” as a Mass Comm (communications) major.

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I wanted to be the talented, smart and pretty woman in front of the camera.  I worked really hard at writing and developing interesting stories.  My main professor, a recently retired TV news director, had no faith in my abilities.  And honestly maybe my story writing did suck.

The professor eventually suggested that I consider my area to be behind the camera.  Mid-semester I found out I was pregnant.  I had not place to turn, I went for it.  I lost my figure and my confidence for being in front of the camera anyway.  I did a final project on a “doggie hysterectomy”.  I filmed a vet doing the surgery on the dog.  At one point I focused in on his face, and in his glasses you could see the refletion of his work.  It was really good, and I heard after college a classmate did that type of story for a news station and won an award for it.

I finished the semester out, while still pregnant,  I brought my fears to this professor.  The fears of pursuing my goals as a photojournalist and being a single Mom.  He told me some of his hardest working and best employees were single Moms.  He said that they are so used to working hard and doing it alone at home, that they bring this work ethic to their job.

This was the beginning of seeing myself outside the box of shame I was in.  The only thing I saw about myself, was “unwed mother” or “unworthy” having a kid on my own, without a spouse, surely that meant I was ‘easy’ as well.  There is a difference about having unwed sex, and then being ‘caught’ at it, by getting pregnant.  Anyway – –

I kept all the good of his perpective that single moms are hard working, and I kept the bad, his feedback I could not tell a story.  And 17 years later I started blogging. 

Blogging is storytelling.  Blogging is writing.  I can do this, and I will only get better as I continue to do this.

A recent tweet, reinforced this.  The blog post link, provides details on how blogging has been influencial in the careers of some popular and successful people.

One of the things I tell people:   

It’s not what happens to you, its the story you tell yourself about it.

So it’s time I tell the story, that I can tell a story.  I’ve learned the power of storytelling and I’m willing to live it by changing my story.

Instead of: “I can’t”, it’s “I can”.

Got any “cants” to make “cans” . . . go for it!